Answers to Single Woman 30day Challenge

Its a blogging challenge and I accept!

Question 30 – Write a letter to your future mate saying whatever you want to say

Deeply personal but its a nice question to end the challenge. I write this letter depicting a life with my future mate rather than a laundry list of characteristics I’d like to have in him.

To Him with Love,
My reality surpassed my dreams when I met you. A quiet calmness when we’re together… no stress and no pressure. Not once you’ve made me cry always showing me the things that make human beings special…make me special. You bring that smile to my face when you call and it makes tasks more fulfilling through the day. I think of you and pay attention to things that will make you smile too. I opened my heart and you lit flames of friendship and love I cherish to this day with hope and security that I’m going to love you forever and another day. As deeply as I am loved by you which gives me strength…loving you deeply gives you courage. Marriage is not perfect and when you and I can’t see eye to eye let us work to keep our love the same.

Yours truly


Question 29- Who is your closest or most special friend that you’ve never met and what do they mean to you? How did you cross paths? Talk about how you “met” them: Facebook, Twitter, an online support group, etc.

Interesting. I am not into the online spaces for meeting “special friends” but I’ll bite. I met my most special friend whilst blogging and reading comments…boy could he talk!! *we laugh

Question 25- Describe a moment when you “paid it forward.” What happened and how did it feel?

It was a rainy Wednesday morning. I was just getting out of a class in college and heading to my car when a fellow student (didn’t know him personally) approached me asking for a ride to another part of campus to attend an interview. He explained the campus bus would make him late and pleaded with me. I said a silent prayer and obliged. I remembered the times in freshman year when our friends with cars would offer to take us to the store when needed. #payitforward

Question 20-Describe your most difficult breakup and what you learned from it

In 2010, my relationship of five years ended. It was long distance but we’d see each other whenever possible. Unfortunately graduate school along with fears got in the way causing certain unforeseen actions to play out which I refused to forgive. It was difficult in the sense we established love, spoke of marriage after undergrad but plans changed on my part and I decided to go further with school. I asked him to wait (maybe selfish perhaps) but he tried to start something new and maintain our relationship. Nothing remains in the dark and I found out. I wasn’t angry at her, I was angry at him and at myself for maybe being too selfish. I didn’t accept his calls and apologies in the aftermath and we went our separate ways. My learnings from the relationship have been primarily positive opting to remember the good times, words in action and love nurtured. Souls may kiss but not necessarily stay together but that’s life! Pick yourself and try again!